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Writer's pictureE. Deborah Kalauserang

Girls Talk: Setting A New Standard

Back when I was a 14 years old, I used to think about dating in high school. But then I changed my mind as I grow up. I discovered a whole new level of standards in life. Well you know where this conversation is heading, to girls’ talk of course! If you’re a guy and NOT interested in reading some girls’ crucial matters, then just close the tab. BUT if you wanna know how we think, then read on!


Being a girl is not just about crying over heartbreaks, get to choose lipstick colors or wear pretty dresses. It’s a lot more than that. As a woman, we all must have standards, including how we behave and how we choose the people that’ll go out with us in the future. Regret comes too late, they say. Well, it’s true. Every women have the right to decide on their future, and let that decision not be a careless one (wow this is so feminist). Us women have to respect ourselves by having our own, high standards. I just realized that when I saw how my father treated my mom with gentleness and respect. It’s something she deserves because she really sacrifices most of her time for the family. And I want to be treated the same by my future man. But I have to work a few things out first my self, if I want my expectations to become reality.



Personally, one of my standards is not going easy on guys. What I mean is, don’t be a trophy who gets hugged by different winners each year. Us women aren’t prizes to be easily earned. If men expects respect from us, then they have to show respect first to us by treating women the way they should. I’m not blaming men for this, but we girls also takes responsibility for our decisions. Example: your boyfriend just broke up with you. Then you get some serious mental break down and blamed him on everything for being a jerk. Then you meet another guy next year and repeats the same cycle again. Who’s fault is that? The guys’ or the girls’? Well, it’s both who are wrong. But, hey, why did we women say yes in the first place when he admitted his true feelings to us? We got rights to say what’s in our minds, to have our own thoughts and standards. Maybe we’ll feel that it’s not time to say yes and we tell him that he have to wait. Why not? If a guy really loves us, he’ll prove it by keeping his word true. If he don’t, he’ll leave us when he gets tired of waiting, which he’ll do it in the future if we said yes. See what I mean?


Be friends with all people, including the guys who are after you ( I can’t believe I’m writing this haha). It’s important to maintain our friendship before bringing it into another level. Why? Because when you’re friends with them, you’ll discover their traits and habits, whether they’re good people or not. You see, people behaves differently when they are infatuated. They wanted to look good in front of those they like. It’s like plain socks wrapped in glittering, fancy gift box. But when they stepped into a different circle, that is friendship (okay just consider this as a temporary friendzones lol), they will show you their real identity.


Most IMPORTANT of all, be a lady and a woman of God. We have to know that we are beautiful in God’s sight. We sometimes wanted to be loved by that someone, but realize that the Maker of heaven and earth already gave His life for us and loves us more than anyone could. Be a gracious woman either by saying what is good to be heard (I know this is a pain because personally I often wanted to say strings of curses if I’m mad) and be aware of our appearance. Wear what a lady should wear and be gentle, yet tough. Remember, what we believe in our hearts will be reflected through our actions. Just be ourselves, because we are accepted by Him. Have patience for your future man. Be the right woman, and the right man will come to you.


Proverbs 11:16 A gracious woman gets honor, and violent men get riches.


(Quote by Max Lucado)

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